....And in addition to the previous post about black women....

I know I already let loose my rant about this topic, but I still have a little more to say (again excuse the misspelling, etc. etc.)....

 

Many of these high and mighty college educated black women who swear they can't find a man, have these crazy and unrealistically high standards that no one can actually reach (check the comment by 3EVE in the other post. Yes, girl, I agree). They are so particular and whatnot, that they probably run half the black men that they find away. No one is perfect. And unfortunately for us black women, in terms of social standards, black men may be the furthest away from perfection. But that doesn't mean that we should just give up on them.

 

Again and again I have to say, this conditioning for failure within the black man is not their fault. I don't care that people are 'sick of hearing black people blame slavery and Jim Crow for all of their current issues', I am going to blame slavery and Jim Crow anyway. What the hell do you expect of a people who have had generations upon generations of disenfranchisement, disrespect, lack of resources, etc.??? Do you expect to see them magically rebound from that ish? I mean seriously, lets take a look at this for a moment…

 

Slave trade began in 1441. Black Power movement (the time post Jim Crow) started sometime around 1962 (or later). Let's do the math…that equals 521 years (give or take). FIVE HUNDRED AND TWENTY-ONE YEARS!!!! Are you kidding me? And you expect us to suddenly be all good and ready to be perfect and ish? HELL NO. Especially since we were still dealing with major, major, major racial issues as late as the 1990s (we still deal with them now but there was an increase of racial tension in the 90s). I mean, I cannot believe that I even have to say all this, it should be apparent. So all you college educated black women who have even considered taking these new reports about your lonely asses seriously, I suggest you take a look into yourself and ask "Why doesn't a good black man want me" rather than "Why can't I find a good black man." Maybe you need to work harder at helping and protecting your men rather than running away.

 

To all of you reporters and writers who are hell bent on making black women date outside of their race, try taking a look at why there is a lack of black men for these women in the first place. I suggest you write about what causes black men to be in the situations that they are in and how black women can help them overcome their problems. This is a work in progress and if black women just up and leave, there will be a limited amount of people to do the work.

 

Now, please don't get me wrong, I DO NOT THINK that anyone should feel bad for black men. They should be held accountable for their mistakes and shortcomings too, but we cannot ignore what they have gone through. All of that plays a part in who they are now. In addition, I am not saying that black women can only date black men. Again, as I said in my last post, if you fall in love, you fall in love. If someone makes you happy then that is the person that you should be with, regardless of race.

 

Before I close this out, I need to say this….if over 50% of failed marriages are caused by finances, does that mean that many people get married because of money???? Hmmm….and is there a chance that these college educated women have a college education because they want to secure a nice, lucrative future for themselves? Hmmmm…and is there a possibility that these white men that we are being pushed to go date/marry have more money than the average black man? Hmmmm…check yourself ladies before you go hollering that you can't find a good black man because it may be you and not the man that has the issues. Don't lower your standards per se, but understand that the standards that you have are based upon success rates and social positioning that is very difficult for black men to obtain….