My First Official Post...A Copy From A Facebook Note

So, recently there has been all this hoopla surrounding the 'amazing' discovery that many educated black women are single. I have a very big problem with this and decided to voice my opinion via Facebook a few days ago. Here's a repost of my note entitled "I am a black woman and I am not single...But anyway". Read with an open mind and let me know what you think.

I am a black woman and I am not single...But anyway…



At what point are people going to realize that black women are not the only ones who are having a hard time finding a good man? Why is there this sudden interest in the "lonely, highly educated black woman" who is unable to find love, despite her beauty and brains? What about the Latinas who sit and wonder where all the good Latino men have gone? What about the Asian women that just want a little love too? And hey, even though the powers that be want you to believe otherwise, white women have trouble finding good men as well. Why is the focus on black women as if we are the only ones who cannot find a mate? This is really beginning to getting on my nerves...


And why is the focus specifically on the Single Black Woman rather than the Single Black Man? Because guess what, if the women are single, so are the men. If the black women are not married, neither are the black men. And, as a side note, who gave Nightline permission to put OUR issues on blast? Again, this is really getting on my nerves... (if you haven’t seen it, Google it)


I think everyone needs to leave the black woman alone and go find all those black men who refuse to love us, care for us, change for us as we do for them, treat us like the queens we are, and MARRY US. We are here for you, take advantage of the love we have. I mean, my goodness, how can you, black man, sit around and watch as the media dogs out your women like we are some kind of helpless puppy dogs? Do you even care what you are doing to your own community?


Black women have always known that a good black man is hard to find. (Shut up to the 15 good black men that are actually treating their women right, taking care of their kids, and liking it so much that they put a ring on it...I'm not talking to you.) Now, the whole world knows about the black woman’s woes, thanks to the random blogs, magazines and news shows that are reporting this ‘problem’. So when are black men going to stand up and take position...at least for appearance and statistical sake? My goodness...


This blurb could go on and on but I will stop it here. For anyone who cares, I am educated but I am not single. So I don’t fit the in the category of “black, educated, and lonely.” But it doesn’t matter. I see the horrific (yes, horrific) things that other black women have to endure just to get love from our men. It’s not fair so I’m voicing my opinion. And if you don’t like it, then guess what? You are probably a black man.