And Sometimes Married Men Cheat…

In this sex-crazed society, it is not surprising to find monogamous relationships that are found to be....well, not so monogamous.

According to recently released courts documents, Fantasia Barrino created a sex tape with Antwaun Cook, husband of Paula Cook, and is in danger of being sued for her indiscretion. Reports are flying in from news stations, blogs, and urban radio shows about Fantasia's mishap suggesting that Fantasia has ruined her reputation and possibly the future of her career.

While people are blaming Fantasia for this scandal and hinting that Alicia Keys is the original culprit of it all, I am blaming Antwaun Cook for his ignorance. This man has a wife, who has found out that her husband is cheating on her, and whose business is now being spewed throughout the gossip world. Antwaun has embarrassed the woman whom he vowed to cherish and honor and has completely demolished the sacredness of their relationship. While almost every news headline circulating throughout the internet is blaming Fantasia for sleeping with a married man, I would like to draw attention to the obvious yet often ignored fact--- MARRIED MAN HAS SLEPT WITH FANTASIA.

Fantasia could have been a little more selective with whom she chose with lay with in bed but at the end of the day, what difference does it make? Fantasia is not married and she did not make a vow to honor and cherish anyone; therefore she can do whatever she likes. If she finds a man, likes that man, and proceeds to sleep with that man, she has every right to do so. She has NOT made any commitment to any one person that prohibits her from sexual and relational freedom.  Antwaun Cook on the other hand, is a different story.

Men seem to have it so easy. They do the dirt but let the blame rest on the heads of the women with whom they get dirty. In this situation, Antwaun is not the topic of conversation, Fantasia is. And even though her fame makes her susceptible to being headline news, this situation has unfairly favored the actions of the adulterer and thrown shade on the actions of Fantasia.

Reports could just as easily blame Antwaun for being a cheating dog as they could blame Fantasia for being a husband stealing ho, but the media has purposely chosen to focus of Fantasia's morality.  As I said before, Fantasia may have slept with a married man but in order for her to do so, a married man had to sleep with her. Just as in the case of Alicia Keys and Swizz Beats, women are forced to bear the burden of blame for things that are not their fault. It is not Fantasia or Alicia's fault that legally married men chose to sleep with them. It is, however, their fault that they choose to sleep with married men. But if they [Alicia and Fantasia] are not married women, who are the actual perpetrators of the adulterous crime--the married men or the single women?

I find it hard to believe that people are really so blind as to believe that it is only right to blame single women for the deceitful actions of married men.  I am not claiming that Fantasia is innocent but I am claiming that Antwaun Cook is guilty. People seem to forget that he is just as much a part of this drama as Fantasia and should carry his share of the blame. People also seem to forget that Antwaun, not Fantasia, is breaking marital law and should be punished accordingly. Fantasia is merely a woman getting her kicks off of a man that she likes….who coincidently just so happens to be married.

~Mz.Jonezy